Almost everyone I meet for mediations about separation are on the emotional roller coaster. It is a sign that this was an important relationship and is a normal part of the separation.
The problem is that the two people in the relationship are often at different ends of the roller coaster train (or may even be in separate cars). The one at the front (or the initiator of the separation) may be going through a flurry of emotions while their partner may be at the back not aware of what is going on at the front of the train.
For those who are at the front of the train, it is good to remember that the person at the back needs to go through the emotional ride; whilst the person at the back can be comforted that even if the person at the front seems to be calm and emotionless, they have probably been through the roller coaster ride too.
And just like a roller coaster, it can be hair raising while you are going through the emotional ride but when you reach the end, things will be calmer and return to a new normal.
If you are going through the roller coaster of separation, please contact me, a mediator, or a counsellor for tips on how to survive the ride.